When you’ve got something to prove, you do things bigger and louder. When you feel like you are not heard your intuition tells you repeat it. But if friends, family and all the other kinds of listeners you can think of listened, actually listened, you wouldn’t feel so bad.
Just of the top of my head I can think of something everyone has said louder or repeated many times to be heard, some of them don’t even know that they are insisting on such an effort. Most just feel hurt.
I, likewise, am feeling unheard. I’m also being misjudged and ill represented because of this dilemma. I’m saying it wrong maybe or being stubborn and sounding persistent. Wouldn’t it all be easier if everyone listened differently?
People listen to things and take things on the way they, themselves put it. It’s going to be a fairy-tale example but only the people who talk things in an ill manner or sass things up only listen to other’s stories as if they are exaggerated or disguised. Are you following?
It is down to our own personal experiences, but let’s not forget we make our own experiences too. We choose to listen to what people say as it is us saying it and more often than not we misinterpret what is said by the other.
Can’t we just listen better? Wouldn’t that solve a lot more problems? I’ve tried for years and I know and have known for many years, to let things soak in before I can respond without a bias.
And yes, my persistency is that of one, where I feel unheard. Only because other people forget to pause and listen. But like most eastern and western ideologies say, I need to let go. Being unheard is a part of my experience at the moment. I have to stop persisting and accept being unheard; otherwise I will be on a downhill slope towards personality disorders trying to deal with situations that have gone grey and mouldy with hopelessness and sadness. Loneliness too.
If, god forbid, I’m not listening properly, I hope to listen with even more of an untainted ear. If, god forbid, I am not listened to properly, I hope only to indulge in intelligent conversation with those who are wise enough to know the difference and understand my expression.
When I’m feeling unheard, I will, like most people, only speak to the kind that I know I will not get a response off. At least then your expectations are low and efforts don’t seem to be so loud and pointless. It will just be a truer likeness of what you are trying to say. However, for now I will just let go of the whole thing and see where it will take me.